The tradition that degrades another has to end. The bride is no higher or lower than the person she marries and that to be equal means just that. All cultures should be like this to force their husbands to be a responsible person and father. He cannot even feed himself now, how is he going to feed your family? Yes, this bible and God’s standard when Abraham send his servant to get a wife for Isaac he prayed for God’s leading first then followed the girl her parents and paid dowry before taking Rebecca to Isaac also Jacob in laban’s house paid for his bride by serving his uncle Laban for each one different time. And a look at our own marriage systems now hardly speak of success and ultimately become about money in any case.